Have you ever stopped to ask yourself why some teams seem to rise to every challenge while others quietly settle for good enough?
I've been thinking about that question a lot lately, and it came into sharp focus when I came across an interview with Ken Griffin, founder and CEO of Citadel, one of the most successful alternative investment firms in the world. Griffin started investing out of his Harvard dorm room in 1986 and built Citadel into a firm that now manages over $60 billion in capital. When someone like that sits down to talk about culture, I lean in and take notes.
What struck me most is that winning isn't just a value Citadel talks about. It's a value they build a whole system around. And the more I sat with what Griffin shared, the more I realized his lessons apply just as much to those of us leading teams, families, or even ourselves through the daily grind of growth.
So let's walk through what he said, and let's talk about what it means for you and me.
Griffin didn't shy away from a bold statement. He said Citadel names winning as a core value because, in his words, the United States went through a season where winning fell out of vogue. Participation trophies became the norm, and as a country, we lost some of our edge when it came to understanding what it actually takes to win.
That hit me. How often do we, as leaders, water down our own ambition because it feels safer to blend in than to stand out?
Griffin put it simply. Firms that create real value for their clients are the ones that win. Firms that create something inferior are the ones that fail. There's no shame in that kind of clarity. There's no shame in naming your goal and pursuing it with everything you have.
Here's my question for you today. What would change if you said your goals out loud instead of keeping them quiet, just in case you didn't reach them?
One thing I loved was Griffin's honesty about growth. He admitted that as a company grows in size, complexity, and responsibility, it naturally picks up more process and more bureaucracy. That's not a flaw. That's reality.
But here's the leadership move. Griffin said the goal isn't to eliminate structure. The goal is to control the size of that structure so it never chokes out your ability to make decisions quickly and act on them.
I think a lot of us feel this tension in our own lives. As our responsibilities grow, so does the temptation to overthink, overanalyze, and slow ourselves down with unnecessary steps. Growth doesn't have to mean losing your speed. It means learning to protect it.
A few questions worth sitting with:
Where has "process" quietly become an excuse for hesitation in your life or your team?
What's one decision you've been sitting on that you could make today?
Who around you is waiting on your yes before they can move forward?
This next part is one of my favorite leadership insights from the entire conversation. Griffin shared that he'll often tell his team he'll respond within 48, 72, or 96 hours. If they don't hear from him by then, that silence is a yes. Move forward.
He called this negative consent, and he said something I want you to really absorb. It tells people they have agency. It tells them they're trusted to make the call.
Griffin's philosophy is that the person closest to the information, even if they're the most junior in the room, should make the decision as often as possible. Will they get it wrong sometimes? Absolutely. But that's how leaders are made. Not by being protected from decisions, but by being trusted with them.
I think about the leaders who shaped me, and every single one of them gave me room to fail forward. That's the kind of leader I want to be for the people I mentor, and honestly, it's the kind of trust I have to learn to extend to myself too.
Here's something that should stop every one of us in our tracks. The Wall Street Journal reported that Griffin personally spends several weeks every single year reviewing performance assessments for thousands of employees. Thousands.
When asked why he invests his time that way, his answer was simple and powerful. He said it shows how deeply he cares about his people's career advancement. He's looking for patterns. Where are people not flourishing? What does the firm need to change to help them grow?
This is the heart of servant leadership. It's not enough to hire good people and hope they figure it out. Real leaders study where their people are stuck and remove the obstacles standing between them and their potential.
Ask yourself this. If someone reviewed how you spend your time, would it be obvious that developing others is one of your top priorities?
Griffin told a story about the early days of TensorFlow, Google's machine learning toolkit. Five of his colleagues burst into his office the day it launched, absolutely convinced it would change everything.
He gave them the green light to explore, and four weeks later, they weren't still exploring. They were already using it in production, quoting the entire US equity portfolio, because they'd worked twelve- to fourteen-hour days out of pure excitement for the work.
That's what a winning culture looks like. Not forced overtime, but people so aligned with purpose that the extra effort feels like passion, not pressure.
But here's the twist. When generative AI exploded onto the scene, Griffin faced the opposite problem. Too much enthusiasm. When he asked how many Gen AI projects were underway at Citadel, the answer was 200. His response was direct. Five. We're doing five, and we're going to push them hard.
Of those five, just over half became real successes. And Griffin said something wise about the cost of narrowing focus. He didn't view the 195 killed projects as a waste of effort. He viewed unchecked scattering of energy as the real risk.
Here's the framework I'm pulling from this:
Explore with urgency. When something has real potential, give your best people room to dive in completely.
Focus ruthlessly. Enthusiasm without discipline burns resources and attention you can't get back.
Choose your battles on purpose. Decide deliberately when you'll be on the bleeding edge, when you'll lead, and when you'll be a fast follower. Don't let that decision happen by accident.
Where in your own life are you spread across 200 half-hearted efforts instead of five that could actually change everything?
When asked what single question he'd ask a job candidate to know if they were the right fit, Griffin gave an answer that I think applies far beyond the world of finance. He said it's never one question. People are a mosaic. What matters is understanding how all the pieces fit together.
But he did share what he's really searching for. Aspiration. Not ambition, but aspiration. What do you want to create or change in this world? What does success actually look like to you?
He told a story about a young Harvard graduate he once interviewed. Griffin asked him what he'd do if he made $10 million. The young man said he'd quit and climb the highest peaks around the world. Griffin's response was honest. He told him this wasn't the right firm for him, because what he wanted to hear wasn't an exit plan. He wanted to hear how that person planned to climb the next mountain at Citadel.
Griffin also said he looks for people who competed, whether in sports, music, debate, or any other arena where you can win or lose. Why? Because that willingness to show up, put it all on the line, and risk losing builds resilience you simply cannot fake.
And then he shared a statistic that I haven't stopped thinking about. The average equity portfolio manager at Citadel is right about 53 percent of the time. Let that sink in. Imagine a surgeon telling you that 53 percent of patients live. And yet, in that world, being right 53 percent of the time, with the right risk-reward balance, makes you exceptional.
Griffin's real question isn't whether you'll be wrong. You will be. His real question is this. Do you have the mental fortitude to come back to work the next day and get right back at it?
Here's what I want you to walk away with today. Winning cultures aren't built by accident. They're built by leaders who:
Name their values clearly, even when it's unpopular.
Protect speed and decision-making, even as complexity grows.
Give people agency instead of holding tight to control.
Invest real time in developing others, not just managing them.
Focus their energy instead of chasing every shiny opportunity.
Look for resilience, not just talent, in the people they bring alongside them.
You don't need to run a $60 billion investment firm to apply any of this. You need to lead the room you're in, whether that's a team, a family, or simply your own daily choices, with the same clarity and courage Griffin describes.
So here's my challenge for you this week. Pick one of these six principles and put it into action today. Give someone on your team the agency to make a call without waiting on you. Say your goal out loud instead of keeping it safely quiet. Get back up after your 47 percent, because that's where the growth actually happens.
You weren't made to sit on the sidelines of your own life. You were made to compete, to fail forward, and to build something worth being proud of.
Now go build your winning culture, starting today.
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